Dvar Torah Parashat Chayei Sara
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Dedicated Leilui Nishmat Rachamim ben Mazal A"H and Adele bat Hana A"H By Johnny and Pazit Dayon ________________________________________________________ Parashat Toldot
Changing the Course of History
Parashat Toldot begins the story of Yaakov and Esav. When Rivkah was expecting her sons, it says, “The children struggled within her (25:22).” Rashi comments on this, elaborating, “When she passed by the entrances of the Torah academies of Shem and Ever, Yaakov would run and struggle to come out. When she passed the entrance of a temple of idolatry, Esav would run and struggle to come out.”
Rav Moshe Sternbuch asks a question in his book, On the Parasha. How could it be that Yitzchak Avinu would have a son predestined to serve idols? The answer is that although he was inclined to serve idols from birth, his task in life was to overcome the inclination and to have a hand in completely eradicating it from the world. Yaakov’s task was to realize his potential for perfection and ultimately achieve that. The goals were equally difficult, but only Yaakov was able to accomplish his mission and be successful.
Had Esav realized his potential and achieved his life’s task, the world as we know it would be entirely different. There would have been no heresy, no Paganism, no Christianity, Buddhism, or even Atheism. The complete course of human history would have changed.
Each Jew is born with a different task, as well as the potential to fulfill it. Many people with simple backgrounds or mediocre abilities work hard and achieve the impossible. No matter the hand dealt, we all have the potential to change the course of history.
Always to Blame
On many occasions we have stressed the fact that the overriding theme of the book of Bereishit is that the actions of the forefathers foreshadow the fate of their descendants. Rabbi Frand explains that this theme is not just a prophetic blueprint for what will happen to the children. The fact that the Patriarchs were able to endure certain experiences gives us the ability and strength to survive parallel occurrences in our own individual and collective lives.
In Parshat Toldot, we are introduced to an aspect of this theme which has been with us since time immemorial – namely, Sin’at Yisrael, the hatred of Jews for no reason whatsoever. This concept is articulated when Avimelech tells Yitzchak, “Go away from us, because you have become much mightier than us” [Bereishit 26:16]. This is the prototype of all future anti-Semitism. No matter what the Jew does, the nations of the world will find a reason to blame him for his behavior. Whatever we do, the nations will always find fault with us.
When Yitzchak first came to Gerar, the population did not want to have anything. They said, “We do not like Jews. They are too poor!” When Yitzchak became wealthy, they said. “We do not want you. You are too rich!” Sometimes they wish to send Jews into exile because we are too poor and sometimes, they wish to exile us because we are too industrious or too rich.
A famous story is told of a Jew walking along and being approached by an SS officer. The SS officer pushed the Jew onto the ground and asked him “Who is the cause of all the troubles in the world?” The Jew answered, “the Jews and the bicycle riders”. The officer asked him, “Why the bicycle riders?” He responded, “Why the Jews?”
The Power of Halacha
In 1999 Rabbi Jospeh Kaminetzky, founder of the Jewish Day School Movement passed away. This movement provided a Jewish education to out-of-town Jews who would otherwise not receive a Jewish education. During the shiva—mourning in Eretz Yisrael a stranger walked in, and he told them all his story:
“I owe your father Dr. Kaminetzky everything. I lived in an out-of-town community. I was not religious, but my father registered me for Jewish Day School. One morning my father called me down to leave, and I told him I needed another minute because I tied my shoes in the wrong order. My father was furious that we were going to be late, and I responded, explaining that this is what I had learned in school.
“My father was furious, “This is what I am paying tuition for? To learn how to tie your shoes?! It does not make a difference.” My father immediately switched me to public school, and I drifted far from Judaism.
“Years down the line I am engaged to a non-Jewish girl. It is the day of my wedding, and I am tying my shoes. Afterwards I realized that I tied my left shoe and then my right shoe. My entire life I tied my shoes correctly according to Halacha. How could I give it up tonight and marry a non-Jewish girl. I immediately called my bride, and I apologized explaining that I am a Jew and a Jew could not marry a non-Jew.
“After this, I took a flight to Israel to learn more about my roots and religion. I learned for many years in a Kiruv Yeshiva. One day my Rosh Yeshiva approached me and told me it is time to get married, and he had a girl in mind for me. He told me that she was a special girl and a convert. I received her contact information, and we set up a date.
“One of the first questions that came up was why did she become Jewish. She told me, ‘I was dating a guy for a long time. On the day of our marriage he canceled because he was a Jew. I was devastated. If he could call off a wedding with someone he loves for a religion then there must be something about this religion. I looked into Judaism, studying and surrounded myself in it, and I decided to convert.’
“I told her that I was that guy that canceled the wedding. We continued to go out, and eventually we got married and built a family. That is why I came to the shiva, because I owe everything to him.”
Hakol Kol Yaakov
The day that Esav came back from the field exhausted was the same day that he sold his birthright to Yaakov. When Yitzchak felt he was near the end of his life, he sent Esav out to get him something to eat so that he could bless his children before he died. When Esav went out to prepare a meal for his father, Rivkah prepared Yaakov and sent him to get the beracha of the bechor—eldest son that he had purchased earlier from Esav.
“So Yaakov drew close to Yitzchak, his father, who was blind then. And he [Yitzchak] felt him and said, ‘Hakol kol Yaakov ve’hayadayim yedeh Esav—The voice is Yaakov’s voice, but the hands are Esav’s hands (27:22).” Rashi comments that Yitzchak couldn’t have been talking about the sound of the voice itself, since our sages tell us that Yaakov and Esav sounded alike, and Yitzchak could not tell them apart. Rather, what Yitzchak meant was that their tone and manner of speaking were different. Yaakov spoke gently and included Hashem in his speech, whereas Esav spoke with the roughness of a murderer.
The Rosh comments that the word hakol in “hakol kol Yaakov” is written without a vav. It could be read “hakal kol Yaakov — the voice of Yaakov is weak or light.” The Vilna Gaon explains that when the voice of Am Yisrael is weak when the Jewish people are not learning Torah and praying to Hashem, then Esav—who represents the other nations—will rise, and antisemitism will raise its ugly head. But when the Jews are diligent in learning Torah and living a kosher and religious life, praying to Hashem, properly keeping Shabbat, and bringing a kiddush Hashem to the nations of the world, then we will be worthy of our forefathers’ berachot.
The following story will illustrate how we must distinguish ourselves. Mr. Sol Werdiger, CEO of Outerstuff, a company that produced sports apparel, received a phone call from Mr. Oh Joon, the South Korean UN Ambassador, asking to meet him for lunch at a kosher restaurant in Manhattan. Although Sol did not know the purpose of the meeting, he agreed.
When they met, Ambassador Joon told him, “I have always heard negative stereotypes about Jews and Israel, and I took it at face value. Then, my daughter took a graphic design internship at your company. Throughout the year, she has been telling me how wonderful it is to work at your company.” Mr. Joon continued, “There are four areas that stood out and impressed my daughter. Every day around midday, no matter what was going on at the office, all the men including those from neighboring offices, retreated into a room to pray with sincerity and calm. Every Friday the office shuts down early in the afternoon in preparation for your holy Sabbath and is closed on the Sabbath. This includes all workers, no matter which faith or religion they maintain. My daughter also observed that all petitioners for charity – and there were many – were treated with respect and had left with a check in their hands. My daughter was also treated with the utmost respect and dignity.”
Because of the amazing experience and lessons the company taught his daughter, Mr. Joon took out his checkbook and was ready to write a check returning all his daughter’s earnings! Mr. Werdiger wouldn’t hear of it. “Your daughter worked and earned her salary. She rightfully deserves her pay; I will not accept any compensation.”
Then the ambassador relayed the most amazing thing. “As you know, I have voting privileges at the UN. Now, because of my renewed appreciation of the Jewish people, I abstained from voting on resolutions against Israel on three occasions. At one resolution I was the ninth vote needed to pass the motion and resolution against Israel, and because I abstained, it did not pass!”
When retelling the story, Mr. Werdiger said that no one at the office had any idea that this girl was the daughter of an ambassador, and no one ever imagined what type of impact their typical conduct at work had on her, or how this impacted the votes against Israel. Hashem has entrusted us to follow the example of our forefather Yaakov. If we are diligent in learning Torah and living a religious life, our voice will be heard over the other nations.
Yaakov Dressed as Esav
Rabbi YY Jacobson brings down another interpretation of Yaakov disguised as Esav. As we mentioned before, Rivkah had prepared Yaakov to receive the bechora from her husband. While Esav was hunting, Rivkah dressed Yaakov in Esav’s clothes, covered his arms and neck with goatskins to simulate the feel of his hairier brother, prepared a similar dish, and sent Yaakov to his father with the food. Yitzchak, sensing something was amiss, asked his son to lean closer, “And he came closer, and he kissed him, and he smelled the fragrance of begadav—his garments, and he blessed him (27:27).”
A very notable question is asked. If Rivkah had valid reasons for why Yaakov should be the one to receive Yitzchak’s blessing, not Esav, why didn’t she just communicate with her husband and explain that he wasn’t making the right decision, as so many women in the Torah have done? And another question is asked, why did Yaakov’s clothes influence Yitzchak’s decision in giving him the bechora?
The answers, according to Rabbi YY Jacobson, are connected. Yitzchak was not influenced by begadav—his garments, rather bogdav—his traitors. We can see the amazing foresight Rivkah had. She knew that one day, there would be Jews who ‘betray’ their nation and try to assimilate and hide their lineage. Rivkah didn’t only want the blessing to go to Yaakov, but for the Yaakov dressed as an Esav. The moment Rivkah dressed her son Yaakov in Esav’s clothes, she ensured that the spark of Judaism, the essence of the Jewish soul, the fountain of Jewish faith, would remain embedded in the heart of every single Jew forever, even in the Jew that presents himself to the world as an Esav.
There’s an interesting video that went around showing a young, tattooed man waiting at a bus stop in Israel. He was approached by an elderly religious man who greeted him and addressed him, “Shalom Alechem my brother.” The young man quickly replied, “Why do you call me brother? I’m not your brother. You don’t accept me, look at my tattoo.” The elderly man said, “I also have a tattoo,” and he began to tell the young man that many years ago someone taught him that all Jews are brothers! The young man asked, “Who was it?” The man began to raise his sleeve to show him the number tattooed on his left forearm, and he said, “Adolph Hitler showed me that we are all brothers, no matter what!”
May we remember how it says in the parasha, “hakol kol Yaakov,” which teaches us to always keep the voice of Torah strong and teach it to our children and grandchildren. By doing this we will be better equipped to keep the influences of the other nations of Esav far away from us. We should always be worthy of the berachot from Hashem and continue to benefit from the zechut of our forefathers. May we be able to truly achieve our tasks in life and reach our potential like Yaakov Avinu. May the Jews who dress as Esav feel the connection to Hashem within them and return, and may Hashem bless us and bring Mashiach speedily in our days! Amen!
Shabbat Shalom!
Rabbi Amram Sananes, written by Jack Rahmey
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